Divorced dad kids and dating
As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.
There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.
The issue is my management of my relationship with my kids and my ex-wife I can use the kids to get away with murder.
With a divorced mom as a date, I know that she will understand when the kids trump our plans.
And I have been the dad who apologized for checking his phone when a text dinged while on a date.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.
Scenario 1: Crisis If the issue is a crisis that requires a response, I will apologize, explain the situation briefly, and respond with a text or phone call.And as I have stated that I didn’t think I’d be interested in dating a woman who was not a mom, I’ve had to revise that statement, based on new information.My fear about dating a woman without kids is more about boundaries and time management. It’s not about her wanting more of my attention or not.Presents, treats and fun outings can be great ways to bond, but don't go overboard.If you begin by showering them with gifts it won't only be hard to keep it up, it might make them mistrust your motives.